I'm not sure that the terms I'm using are standard, or that I'm explaining them well. Comments and feedback are welcome. Let me try to explain my terms, explain my assumption and then ask a question.
My training has emphasized responses to attacks that intend to harm. When I'm the uke (recipient of technique), I try to attack with intention, and when I'm the tori (recipient of attack), I ask my partner to attack with intent. There is nothing more frustrating than what I call "static grab" - where uke walks camly up, and deliberately grabs my wrist and stands, flat footed and balanced and waits. If Uke shows no intention to attack or to do harm, then many of my techniques fall flat. (I'm using wrist as an example - the same is true if my partner throws a flat footed punch, or any other "mock attack"). It bugs me slightly, but we have to teach our uke's to attack authentically in order to defend authentically. Or so I have always thought.
Today one of my female training partners commented that "static grab" is a common attack modality against women.
Speculation on gender difference in attack modality.
What follows is explicitly speculation - I'm just trying to explore my assumptions and blind spots and to understand her comment (yes, I will discuss it with her further.) It may be that "static grab" is a way of expressing dominance over women (and, I suspect children). Talking this over with my significant other, we suspect that there may be two situations where men use static grab against women:
Completely static dominance display - female acquaintances have told me of men grabbing them by wrist or shoulder. The stories I've heard of this suggest that this isn't an aggressive attack; there is no intent to do harm. The man just wants to impose physical contact on a woman as a way of establishing dominance. (this seems to be correllated with bar/party/ environments). I've got a couple of "friend of a friend" examples of this. One or more women of my acquaintance have related tales of men who without invitation, discussion or transition simply reached out and began fondling a breast; that may cross the line into aggression, but I'm going to draw an arbitrary line and include it here because there was no evidence of intent to cause pain or injury.
Imposing truth through dominance - Female acquaintances have also mentioned more aggressive grabs or restraints in the context of an argument "Listen to me", or "Don't turn your back on me". The intent still does not seem to be an explicit escalation to physical harm, but the level of affect is significantly higher, and I think both the woman and any observer would perceive this as a far more explicit threat.
This is an incomplete hypothesis - I haven't finished thinking about it. I'm excluding examples where the attack is obviously and explicitly intended to do harm or to lead to a situation where the attacker can do harm. These cases fall into the "authentica attack" modality and the gender of the individuals is irrelevant
I may eventually include man on man aggressive dominance - my hypothesis is that when men express a dominance challenge against other men they do it differently than they do towards women.
This hypothesis would explain some comments that I've heard from female training partners. But it is a hypothesis, and I'd be more comfortable if I could find some evidence that would confirm or refuse the hypothesis.
If this hypothesis is valid, then I need to change my training slightly. I need to incorporate training against static grab and be aware of how the response escalates or de-escalates the conflict. I think that is much more difficult than the kind of training I do now which emphasizes attack with the intent to harm.
Where could I find statistics on attack types by gender? Where could I find raw data that I could categorize by attack modality? Has anyone done this?