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In my experience as a male trainer and trainee the key for a hard, educational or maybe painful training is trust between all parts of the training group. Female fighters have told me that they were beaten up in training after they told their opponent to slow down. Afterwards they felt violently abused. So in such a case the trainer has the responsibility ...


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What you're describing is a sensitivity to your own violent thoughts and actions. You feel bad even thinking about inflicting pain on a training partner, even if it's just a "tap" which you know causes no real pain. Just the thought of hitting someone over and over again causes you to feel bad. And so after 3 years of being in a style that practices that ...


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Is the student toxic?1 If yes then get ride of him as soon as possible. If they have no desire to change, then they have to go. Actually, that might be harsh: offer him the choice of either mending his ways or training elsewhere. If maybe, then you have to figure out if they are willing to change their behaviour. Again, you need to talk to them in an open ...


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There's two issues here: Ranging for Contact and Force This is a problem I see with folks who train for non-contact in their drills or doing "air sparring" - you train yourself to punch 2-3 inches away from actual contact, and you end up learning to attack, and evade/block, at those ranges. First thing, is your drills and training have to be at the ...


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Accidents happen. However, when you have an accident with people you are not really trying to hurt - you make extra effort to make sure the accident doesn't happen again - otherwise it is not an accident. If someone's ego at losing in sparring causes them to attempt to really injure someone, that is not a safe person to work with. Consider what you are ...


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First off, consider therapy. I know that it's not exactly martial arts advice, but it sounds like you've undergone a great deal of trauma and frankly, us just giving you training advice would be like giving cadence tips to a runner with a broken leg. You have been damaged and you need a qualified medical professional to help you with that damage. Past that, ...


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Of course you should quit! From what you said, you are neither having fun nor learning anything. I know you are young but your time is valuable. There is no point in wasting your time with people who do not appreciate you and refuse to teach you. The shame is theirs. Find another martial art class to go to, one where you can learn, grow, and have fun. If ...


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Hi have a trained a couple of ladies over the years and here is my take on it. For starters, there is a difference between training hard and just getting beat up. While I believe that is very important that you treat a women the same way you treat a man it is also important to not discourage a women from training. First - As a women you should be aware ...


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It is the same as asking if you can learn a language without having conversations with real people. In a sense, yes, you can learn to read and write that language from books and instruction. But you'll be in for a heck of a big surprise if dropped into a city where people speak that language for real -- everybody will talk so much faster than you imagined ...


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As a beginner, I would say you should definitely be wearing gloves and more importantly the person you're sparring against should be wearing some form of protective gear, particularly at least a gum shield. If you've never done any sparring before and you're a white belt, it shouldn't be expected that you would know how to control a technique. It is also ...


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You can watch other people sparring to see how they deal with front-leg kicks; either watch 'live' at tournaments, or search for videos on YouTube. However, I watched a video of a gold medal final from the London Olympics and couldn't really see what their approach was! I train in ITF TKD, which normally has a different approach to sparring (more use of ...


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This is a problem for me as well. This is usually due to friction tearing your skin open as you try to pivot. Look for some shoes you can wear during training. Skeletoes work really well for me, but I usually split my toes due to hardwood, not mats. They do make mat-specific shoes. Use "New Skin" or some other brand of liquid bandage to seal up your ...


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I second taping your toes. I use Johnson's & Johnson's athletic tape to tape my toes and I rarely have any issues with the tape slipping or falling off, in fact, I have to cut it off with a knife from time to time because it sticks so well. I pull enough tape to wrap around my toe about two or three times and fold one corner down so that I can remove ...


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Do you know what the student wants out of the class? I have found the first place to look for resolution is to look for a win-win. If there is a way the Chief Instructor can help him accomplish what he wants to get from the class without affecting the others, then that is the win-win. Of course, this is not nearly so easy as typing a paragraph about how ...


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In our schools we mix up our sparring training so that we can have everybody sparring simultaneously at times. At others times a couple of choice students spar whilst the others watch. Pausing frequently to swap students and give feedback (positive-negative-positive for morale/confidence). This method also allows an instructor to act as a referee (you can ...


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The short answer, is you will learn a martial art, but will be unable to fight effectively. This is based on personal experience and backed up by a few authors. This is based on the fact I learned more from boxing and judo (both full contact arts that focused on getting in front of another person) in a few months than I did from 10 years of Karate (and that ...


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Assuming that you cannot train yourself out of the Ridiculous Gag Reflex [patent pending]1, you could get a dentist to make your a custom made mouth guard. It might well be expensive but probably cheaper than having your teeth replaced. You may as well consider using sparing helmets as they might help. 1. I have no idea how you would even go about doing ...


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I don't have a direct answer for you, but I'd like to address your statement that "In a real fight I think I can go full on." Please note that this is not what usually happens. In an emergency situation, people generally revert to whatever they've practiced most, and if they've been practicing holding back, it doesn't bode well for outcomes. It's like ...


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You don't have to be the best. Your training should improve you in ways that are independent of where you may finish in competition. If your training does not do this, then I definitely recommend leaving. That said, if you want to succeed in national competition, you need to improve in sparring. If you want to improve at sparring/fighting, you find the ...


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One of the things my early teachers in the martial arts said, that I have seen repeatedly over the past 20ish years of teaching martial arts, is that everyone goes through phases where they feel like they aren't learning, or are even getting worse. Often, what is really happening is that the mental development that is part of learning a martial art is ...


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Sparring is not required to be good at Martial Arts, but it can be useful. Sparring offers the ability to see patterns in someone's movement, their punches, and their kicks. Doing that you can see how different people move in different ways. With that you can understand how the human body works and know what someone might do right after that hook kick. It is ...


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You may find a grappling art such as Judo, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu or wrestling easier to get into the mind set for. Once your more used to the "game" of sparing transferring this to striking is simpler. With grappling the transition from drilling a technique with a partner (especially positional type moves) to using it against them is smoother. Your training ...


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When I was in Taekwondo I was this kid. I wasn't arrogant but I was very tough on the other students below my level. I didn't beat them up but you could tell I was punishing on them and they didn't enjoy their sparring time. I thought it was fun. So the head instructor started inviting other head instructors from other schools to assist during our ...


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Talk to your instructor. Your instructor should pair you up with another woman with similar build/height, but if the situation does not permit such arrangement then your male partner should know better than to go full force on you. It might be good practice but if you don't learn anything and only getting injured, it is not going to do any good to you. ...


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To echo more of what everyone else is saying: there is a fine line between abusive behaviour and hard training. My reading of your question is that your sparing partners have crossed it. Did they do that knowingly or by mistake I cannot tell. Some schools do go for a harder than rocks attitude that if you do not bleed, you are not training hard enough. Are ...


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Quite frankly, it sounds like you're in an abusive training environment. The language you're using is uncomfortably similar to what I might hear from someone being beaten up by their spouse, the "they only hurt me badly when I'm doing things wrong" and making excuses for their behavior. It is possible that you're in a situation where you're literally out of ...


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I think the key question here is "What are you comfortable with?" If you are not comfortable with sparring without protective gear then you should not do it, regardless of what is common in your dojo. If you want more detail, then I think the next question is what kind of sparring you are talking about. When I was a kid, I practiced Tae Kwon Do and we ...


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As has been said, both methods are useful with the proper precautions. I often spar without any sort of pads(although I ALWAYS wear a cup+mouthguard) when fighting low belt levels. I have found that the speed involved at that stage is so slow that I can be gentle and still allow them to get in some strikes. When it comes to more advanced sparring, I never ...


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I would watch people specifically in your division. Heavyweight games are much different than fin or fly weight fights. Even male/female fin weight divisions fight different. Watch what people are doing in your specific division. Keep an eye out for Phil's section on this. (USA National Team member, Phillip Yun, is going to run a section on this soon. ...


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Practice combinations. Doesn't matter if they're stupid, as long as they exist. E.g. try a 2 punch, one kick combo: Right Body shot Left Cross to the face Right Roundhouse to the head or switch around if you're left-handed. But ALWAYS attack with combinations. Single attacks don't do much until you've learned to intercept rather than counter. There is ...



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