What is your objective in BJJ?
This is the first point. I training light a warrior try protect my family from the bad guys. I never give up from a position to be submitted and start again. To me BJJ is a question of stay alive or die.
Nowadays when you watch a BJJ competition we see a lot of position to stolen. We can see some positions with a really small change of submission. Nowadays some position have a bad reputation because the fighters use to hold the game and be able to win in points or advantages.
I training hard, my strategy is go a head all the time. I try be one or two steps ahead of my opponent. (some times is not possible but I try).
Ex: If my opponent pull me to the guard I start my pass before he be able to start to think about his game. This attitude give me better change to pass the guard. If I wait for my opponent start to prepare the attack or a swipe I will have to break the grips before to start my pass.
I like the BJJ style of now called old style. Go a head, put presser on the opponent, pass or swipe and finalize quick as possible. Have a look in fights of Zé Mario, Murilo Bustamant, Valid, Fabio Gurgel, Sérgio Canudo, Marcelo Garcia. These guys fight like a Steamroller.
During the ages 80/90 and early of 2000 the BJJ was a little different. The fight was much more a fight. Nowadays some fights are too much focused to be in the rules to win. Personally I don't like. This is not the essence of this Martial Art.
But there are some thing wrong to be passive?
No. It is completely fine. But What are you doing if your opponent have the same attitude them you? Both waiting for a opportunity to do something. I really recommend. Open you game. Go a head and push your self. If you tap you learn. It isn't a shame tap. This will prepare you to a competition/fight.