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I have a four year old son, who is hyperactive. Which martial arts training will help him tire enough to go to sleep early?

Background

I have already eliminated the other options and thus looking for martial arts as a last resort to burn off energy.

My son at age four, is already in grade 1, he is psycho-metrically tested to be at the upper end of the spectrum.

To calm him down we started with Music; even though he is not interested, he has excelled in piano without any practice.

I am turning to Martial Arts as an option; if he finds it interesting

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    Generally, and even moreso in this age, it is all about the trainer, not the art. Look for a trainer that has experience with hyperactivity and this age (I, for example, do) and therefore knows how to handle them. In addition, the layout and methodology of the training can differ a lot within one art, again depending on the trainer. There is nothing that prevents you from going around, speaking to people and trying something out. Apart from that, I take this question to be opinion-based, that's why this is a comment, not an answer. – Philip Klöcking Jan 15 '17 at 19:12
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Well if all you're trying to do is burn off energy, there are better ways of doing that. Bring your kid to a park or indoor play gym, and let him go wild. You can read a book or surf the web while you're there.

But at the risk of reading too much into this, it sounds like your son's hyperactivity may be more than just high energy levels that need to be burned off. I recommend seeing your pediatrician who can then recommend a strategy for tackling this issue. Or maybe you don't know if it's an actual "issue" yet, but your pediatrician will be able to figure that out for you.

If your son is truly hyperactive, he almost certainly won't do well in martial arts classes. Or for that matter, any structured environment. That's because hyperactivity results in a lack of ability to stay interested in and focus on something for any amount of time. Martial arts classes requires the ability to listen to the instructor and stay focused all the time. It's too much to ask of a child that's hyperactive.

I've seen hyperactive kids from the ages of 4 through about 10 in martial arts classes, and it's a terrible thing to watch. They're fidgety. They're not doing what the other kids are doing. They're laughing, sometimes screaming, or talking to themselves while the instructor is trying to get the students to do something. They look like they have no interest in what's going on, but in truth, they just lack the ability to stay calm, focus, and maintain interest.

Almost all martial arts classes that have young children in them will have at least one or two kids like this from what I've seen. And from what I gather, often times the parents of those kids just see the class as an affordable way of babysitting them after school. After school lets out, they get taken by bus or carpool to the martial arts school. And then their parents pick them up after they get done with work. It's cheap after-school daycare. That's our modern life for you.

I feel bad for any instructor who has to deal with it. And I've talked with a few about this before. They just let the hyperactive kids do whatever they want, so long as it's not hurting anyone. It's because they can't control them. They keep trying, though. They say that when they actually get those kids to do something, that's when they feel great. But it doesn't last long.

At age 4, your son is about to begin attending kindergarten classes. That's when this will become a real issue for you. Working him out to burn off energy might help him fall asleep at night, but it's a red herring. It won't help him stay focused in class.

If your kid is in daycare or pre-K classes, you should talk with his teachers to see if his hyperactivity is expected or above what they normally see. They might not be willing to tell you anything bad about him for fear of losing their jobs. So you might want to drop in a couple times to observe his class without him knowing you're there.

Sometimes hyperactivity in children this age is caused by a kind of allergic reaction to certain foods, certain chemicals in food and other products they ingest (toothpaste, for example), and chemicals in the environment. It's tricky knowing what's the actual cause. And your pediatrician might know a specialist who can diagnose this better.

I was a hyperactive child at that age. My mom didn't know what to do, but she ran into someone promoting the Feingold Diet, which eliminates artificial colors, flavors, preservatives, etc. It's since been mostly debunked. But something about it worked really well to prevent my hyperactivity.

When I was about 5 years old, I remember having a hyperactive episode. We were getting ready to attend church, and so my mom told me to go brush my teeth. I went to the kids' bathroom, but the tube of my special toothpaste was empty. So I went into my parents' bathroom to find more toothpaste, and I just used theirs.

Almost immediately, I went crazy. I was running around, screaming, kicking things, turning over chairs and sofas, etc. It was so bad, I remember kicking a hole in the wall. I went from completely calm to completely hyperactive in a matter of minutes. They tried to get me to go to church that day, but we ended up turning the car around and driving back home, instead. I was flipping out in the car.

After about an hour had passed, my energy levels came back down. I calmed down completely. Trying to figure out what went wrong, my mom asked me if I ate anything I shouldn't have just before going to church. I knew what I could and couldn't have, according to the diet my mom placed me on. I said no.

She then asked me to remember the events of the day. And when I got to the part about using the adult toothpaste, my mom said, "Aha!" She ran up to look at her toothpaste, and sure enough, it had artificial colors, flavorings, and artificial sweeteners, all of which were outlawed by the diet. I didn't know that I wasn't supposed to use their toothpaste. Oops.

And just like that, we realized what set me off. It was an reaction of some sort to the chemicals in that toothpaste.

When I was adhering to the "all natural, no added anything, all organic, etc." diet, I was a perfectly nice, calm, normal kid. When I came into contact with any "trigger" foods, I was uncontrollable.

By around age 8 or 9, my body had outgrown this issue. I could eat any food at that point. No special diets were needed. So kids can outgrow this sort of thing.

Anyway, I don't know that this is what your kid has going on. Like I said, the Feingold Diet itself is pretty well debunked. But maybe medical science has some strategies for dealing with childhood hyperactivity, and I'd start by running it by your pediatrician if I were you.

You might want to research it on the web, also. Just beware of all the pseudo-science and alternative medicine nonsense out there. Pass everything by your pediatrician first before acting on anything.

Oh, and as a parent myself, I would be extremely cautious about using Ritalin and other ADHD drugs. I would want to eliminate all of the other possibilities first, and use drugs only as a last resort.

Hope that helps.

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    I have already eliminated the other options and thus looking for martial arts as a last resort to burn of energy. My son - at age 4 - is already in grade 1, he is psycho-metrically tested to be at the upper end of the spectrum. To calm him down we started with Music; he is not interested and have already excelled in piano without any practice. I am turning to Martial Arts as an option; if he finds it interesting. Rest of the things with diet and gym play we have already provisioned for. – Sarvex Jan 16 '17 at 8:24
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    As I said I have experience with hyperactivity as an instructor (Judo) and although they have special needs, hyperactive children can excel in MA. Yes, they need more attention than the average, bc you e.g. have to allow them to run around the mat two times before sitting down for seiza shortly or have to kneel down and maintain eye contact when talking to them. But these kids love rules (pointing them out when others do wrong) and they love activity. As long as the lessons suit children and are not for adults by design (having two instructors for children is better anyway), it can work. – Philip Klöcking Jan 16 '17 at 9:09
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    Good to know, Sarvex. Then I was on the right track it seems. And Philip, I think you're getting those results because it's not solo kata/forms. Partnered activity works better, because kids have to work with someone at all times. The only down-side is when the kid has no interest in the class and is only there because a parent made him be there. Then they have a bad attitude and may not work well even with a partner. I agree that Judo is a great idea for kids in general. – Steve Weigand Jan 16 '17 at 15:29
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You may have to try a few teachers / schools before finding the best one for your son, but I think you're right in that martial arts may be a very, very good solution. The key will be finding the art that gets HIM interested - it could be as simple as the right school - many have had great experiences with Uechi Ryu or Tae Kwon Do. Adhering to structure and form while expressing out his energy may really help him.

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Anything without joint locks and make sure they are not teaching a 4 year old strangles. This kind of thing is too dangerous for a child skeleton as it is still growingand the bones are soft.

I recommend Judo or Brazilian Jujitsu. However striking arts can be fine if taught in an appropriate manner. Head injuries should be avoided in children.

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I would recommend Capoeira. As this art has many different aspects that can help stimulate different parts of the brain. (physical exercise, balance, rhythm, singing, music.) All of this with different difficulty levels within the same group.

Of course as others pointed out the trainer is very important. If he can not engage your son he will get bored and do anything but actually concentrate on the class.

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  • Capoeira would indeed be a good choice provided that the instructors are teaching safely. I have seen too many capoeira practitioners with bad backs. Also, I would like to see this expended a little: how do these aspect help stimulate.? – Sardathrion - against SE abuse Mar 28 '17 at 13:37

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