I'm looking to learn specific techniques that can be used in a variety of self-defense situations, but generally are "relatively safe" on your opponent.
Not sure if I have to justify myself on this website (first post), but I'll try to briefly explain my reasoning.
I'll preface with: First preference is to de-escalate / talk your way out of a situation. Second preference is to run. If both fail, or aren't ideal, then fighting becomes an option. This is just my opinion.
I want to avoid strikes because they can be very harmful. I want to avoid ground-grappling as a main focus (I'll probably have to learn it enough to stay off the ground), because in worst-case-scenarios I don't want to be sitting on top of someone while his friends stomp me.
I had a quick look at what Aikido had to offer, but as far as I can tell it was all reactionary, and required bizarre situations (such as your opponent grabbing your wrists and holding onto them).
I am a big fan of blood chokes. I have successfully performed some Judo throws. I've trained in some wrist locks. I can throw a variety of strikes.
I fully understand that each technique has a level of risk involved. What I mean by "relatively safe" is that certain techniques have a much higher risk to the opponent. Dropping someone on their head, especially on hard surfaces in a self-defense situation, is going to be much more harmful than a simple leg sweep.
I'll also note, that I'm more talking about general self-defense where you don't feel your life is in mortal danger. Maybe a friend or family member is out of control. Maybe it's a drunk guy wanting to fight. Maybe you need to restrain someone as a security guard / police officer. If I feel my life is in danger, I'm not going to care if I harm my attacker, because survival comes first.
I've generally got Judo, Sambo, Wrestling, Systema, BJJ in mind (but I've never physically studied any of them), and similar systems.
I fully acknowledge that I am not an expert, and I humbly request advice on which techniques fit my description. For reference, I like the look of "Tani Otoshi" and "Uki Goshi", because they're simple and not the harshest of throws (still dangerous though, definitely).
It's a big topic, and if anyone knows a database of techniques that I can watch examples of to pick my favorites, that would be awesome. I feel if I train Judo, for example, there's some awesome technique from another art I'll be missing out on. Right now Judo is my default.