I have this sparring partner that always avoids me in the BJJ rolling class. He is my same grade (purple belt), and same weight. But is always avoiding me, I have confronted him before and it seems that he is worried I will hurt him... This is really not the case, as I roll normally with lighter partners, lower belts, and girls, and have not injured anyone. I feal like I want to spar with him as is of my same belt/weight/height, but the constant avoidance, like when I ask him to roll with me when is rolling time and he just says to my face, no I will not roll with you. Is getting me pissed off now.
I have asked him many times to roll with me and promised I will go light and respectful, but he acts very dismissing, to the point of being rude.
I want to know if I should ask my coach to intervene as I would like to measure my self against opponents with the same level, or just continue ignoring him.
I remember that once he got mad with me in some roll and looked for a fight, I just dismissed the situation, letting him know all was fine, and there was no reason to lose control.