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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

I will present a judo view of sparring, which will be partially applicable to a kickboxing situation. Judo has two key principles: mutual welfare and benefit maximum efficiency As applied to ...
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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

As a short answer, I'd say that it comes down to trust and pattern recognition. Respect the level of experience. During sparring, if the woman recognizes the patterns in your attack and defends with ...
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Etiquette when changing from karate to jiu-jitsu

There is a famous zen story, one of the variation is this… Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in ...
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How to spar against a weaker opponent

Competition, in a club setting, should be all about learning: for yourself and them. Thus, Help them! Against a weaker opponent, your goal should be to make them better. So, allow them to practice ...
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How to Deal with Talkative Training Partner

Quite frankly, yes, that's basically exactly what you do, ask them to stop giving you advice. If you want to be nice about it, thank them, but say that you really need to concentrate, and the talking ...
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Is it okay to get a custom belt if you're not a black belt?

For this question there is only one person to ask: Your trainer(s). Is it okay for them or not? If it is okay for them, always have a normal belt, just in case you do classes or training somewhere ...
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How to test teacher's ability?

At my kyokushin karate dojo, one of the instructors is nearly 80. He's physically incapable of performing most of the techniques he teaches. Like, one of his knees doesn't really bend anymore, so he ...
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Why isn't striking part of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu?

BJJ inherits this treatment of striking in rolling from judo. Strikes were removed from judo randori (free play) because Kano could not figure out a way to train them safely. Only relatively safe ...
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Is it appropriate to display the dojo kun at home?

Yes Of course it is appropriate. I am struggling to find a reason why not to do it if you are keen on it. It is a piece of nice calligraphy which would be enough to display as an art piece ...
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Why is a gi worn left side over right?

Origin of keikogi, and Japanese left-over-right dress tradition The uniforms of karate, aikido, kendo, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, sambo etc are derived from the uniforms of judo, which were themselves based ...
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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

I'm not sure why you feel the need to adapt your sparring to women specifically. I always try to adapt my sparring to the person I'm sparring with: make it interesting and challenging for them if I ...
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What is the etiquette for practicing with more experienced partners in BJJ?

There is a nuance in the question as posted. Ultimately, this practice may have to do with cultural differences between Brazilians who are more loyally subservient to a team, dojo and instructor, ...
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What Etiquette Should be Followed When Sparring at Another School?

Yeah, don't be that guy. You don't want to show up at a school asking for a fight. Even if you make it perfectly clear it's "just sparring", many people will see it as a challenge, and you're going to ...
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Judo zarei difference between men and women

1. Seiza gender differences The prescribed gender differences in seiza one sometimes hears stem from traditional Japanese seating etiquette, analogous to sitting sidesaddle/astride in equestrianism, ...
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If partner is using additional moves in drill, should you tell him not to?

Short answer I would like to mention five takeaways for you that these situations exemplify and are important for every martial arts student before I go into the specifics of the described situations: ...
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Aikido seiza: Why is the left toe placed over the right toe?

I just went through my bookshelf and the first book I found which talks about this is Chino Susumu's はじめての合気道, which says: Point! 両足裏は親指が軽く触れる程度にして座る "Important: place the front of your feet such ...
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Aikido seiza: Why is the left toe placed over the right toe?

Kōichi Tōhei in his Book of Ki: Co-Ordinating Mind and Body in Daily Life (1976) states only: "rest one big toe on top of the other" when describing exercises from seiza position. Historically ...
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Aikido seiza: Why is the left toe placed over the right toe?

I don't know from personal experience, but I did have the opportunity to ask several high-ranking Aikido-ka. Two admitted never having heard of the practice, three others are aware of the practice ...
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Aikido seiza: Why is the left toe placed over the right toe?

Answer to a previous question: "Some schools cross the big toes, some don't." Then there is this discussion on a kendo forum. And the Wikipedia page on seiza: "...big toes sometimes are ...
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Etiquette when changing from karate to jiu-jitsu

When I was studying Tae Kwon Do -- if you want to be ultra polite... Explain the situation to your current instructor and if possible get permission and a reference letter. Even if you don't talk to ...
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What are the corrects words to greet our shifu?

In Mandarin, "hao" means "good", and is used as a greeting. (As in "ni hao". "Ni" means "you", but can also be replaced by a title, in this case Shifu.) The end of class phrase is probably "shi fu ...
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Switching schools/styles - Is it disrespectful to ask about differences in technique?

It should be fine to ask why techniques are performed in a particular way. Good practitioners understand why and do more than blindly follow what they have been taught. Good teachers will be able to ...
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Is shaking hands after a judo competition bad etiquette in Japan?

I feel that this question can be split in two sub-questions: Is shaking hands bad etiquette in Japan? Does this apply to (Japanese) Judo? While I have trained in Judo for a few years, my best ...
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Why do some students wear headbands during practice?

Assuming you're talking about Japanese martial arts and Hachimaki, it's basically a matter of tradition that might be based off of samurai helmets and padding against cuts. These days, it's more ...
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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

Women are not children. You can use proper technique when sparring them. Lighten up according to their size and how seriously they train. A good rule of thumb is to hit them as hard as they hit you. ...
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Which martial arts styles work best with social distancing?

In the era of COVID-19, partner training is a bad idea. You do not want to spend extended periods of time breathing heavily in the same space, and especially not indoors. Grappling is particularly ...
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What Etiquette Should be Followed When Sparring at Another School?

In my job I have travelled a lot both in Britain and Overseas and I have found 2 things which run through Martial Arts schools when I have visited; welcoming and competitive. I always present myself ...
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Is it okay to get a custom belt if you're not a black belt?

I would be very wary with this: Some styles, rather than having a stripe across the belt at one end, have a stripe along the entire length of the belt. If you get your belt "customised", you may be ...
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Switching schools/styles - Is it disrespectful to ask about differences in technique?

Some instructors love to contrast and compare, and some instructors consider it highly disrespectful. There is an old school mentality from some of the more traditional styles which treat it almost ...
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Etiquette when changing from karate to jiu-jitsu

I have been in a similar situation, and though I expect them to ask about your background, I would definitely mention it to the teacher at the earliest opportunity. The main advantage of sharing, is ...
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