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Is being angry a prerequisite for sparring?

Emotions in general are detrimental to your sparring. Usually when I have seen this said to a student it is not because we want you to get angry, but that you are sparring as if you are afraid. If ...
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Should I stay in a Muay Thai gym where the fighters hit without much restraint or consideration?

NO!!!!! Get out. Get out now. As in, do not train there even one more time. There is always the chance of being injured in any martial art. That's true of any active sport, of course--but "combat ...
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Is it possible to learn Martial Arts (Kung Fu in my case) effectively without sparring?

Can anyone learn martial arts techniques without sparring? Sure! I mean, you can learn that they exist. Can you learn how to effectively apply martial arts techniques without sparring? Oh, no. ...
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Is it possible to learn Martial Arts (Kung Fu in my case) effectively without sparring?

Your question isn't what you are really asking. Your question is "Can I learn Kung Fu without sparring", and that answer is yes. Sparring is not 100% necessary to learn any art. You can learn all the ...
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Men hitting women too hard in martial arts

In my experience as a male trainer and trainee the key for a hard, educational or maybe painful training is trust between all parts of the training group. Female fighters have told me that they were ...
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Why is more time dedicated to exercises and very less for sparring? Is it for the fee?

This is a good question. And to answer it, you have to understand why karate kata (forms) exist, what their original purpose was, and how kata practice differs from sparring. The original purpose of ...
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BJJ sparring partner avoiding me

♫ Let it go ♫ You talked to him several times, you made overtures, and still he refuses. There is no point in continuing to pester him into doing something he does not want to do. And that is okay. ...
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Is being angry a prerequisite for sparring?

What works for your sensei might not work from you. He is teaching you, what had worked for him. For some, they use anger for the aggressiveness it brings. Anger dominates certain opponents. And in ...
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Is being angry a prerequisite for sparring?

While tigers can be considered savage in some sense, as in "uncivilized" or "fierce", they certainly don't get angry. When they are attacking, they have a goal in mind ("kill this prey to satisfy my ...
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traumatic experiences causing martial arts skittishness

First off, consider therapy. I know that it's not exactly martial arts advice, but it sounds like you've undergone a great deal of trauma and frankly, us just giving you training advice would be like ...
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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

I will present a judo view of sparring, which will be partially applicable to a kickboxing situation. Judo has two key principles: mutual welfare and benefit maximum efficiency As applied to ...
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Etiquette for sparring with women - How to find the balance and not do disservice?

As a short answer, I'd say that it comes down to trust and pattern recognition. Respect the level of experience. During sparring, if the woman recognizes the patterns in your attack and defends with ...
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Should I stay in a Muay Thai gym where the fighters hit without much restraint or consideration?

You're answering your own question here. In sparring they can't go light and hit with momentum and throw dangerous moves. I have seen another guy get an elbow to on the back of his neck and haven't ...
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Men hitting women too hard in martial arts

Accidents happen. However, when you have an accident with people you are not really trying to hurt - you make extra effort to make sure the accident doesn't happen again - otherwise it is not an ...
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Should I quit competitive sparring class in tae kwon do?

Of course you should quit! From what you said, you are neither having fun nor learning anything. I know you are young but your time is valuable. There is no point in wasting your time with people ...
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Is it possible to learn Martial Arts (Kung Fu in my case) effectively without sparring?

I had a Trig professor in college who asked us on day one, "What do math and sex have in common?" The answer was, "You cannot learn them through reading about them in books, and you cannot learn them ...
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How to deal with an "anti-violence" instinct during sparring?

What you're describing is a sensitivity to your own violent thoughts and actions. You feel bad even thinking about inflicting pain on a training partner, even if it's just a "tap" which you know ...
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In MMA, should you try to block punches with your glove in the same way you could in Muay Thai?

Defending punches by putting a glove against your face is not a successful strategy without big gloves. With MMA's small gloves or without gloves at all, it is a Bad Idea. To be truthful, it's not an ...
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Is it possible to learn Martial Arts (Kung Fu in my case) effectively without sparring?

It is the same as asking if you can learn a language without having conversations with real people. In a sense, yes, you can learn to read and write that language from books and instruction. But you'...
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How to deal with an excessively aggressive student that is turning people off sparring classes?

Is the student toxic?1 If yes then get ride of him as soon as possible. If they have no desire to change, then they have to go. Actually, that might be harsh: offer him the choice of either mending ...
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Men hitting women too hard in martial arts

Hi have a trained a couple of ladies over the years and here is my take on it. For starters, there is a difference between training hard and just getting beat up. While I believe that is very ...
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How to deal with unfair judges

I've always considered non contact tournaments to be a lottery, but even in full contact matches you will get calls that go against you that you don't agree with - that is the nature of the sport. I ...
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Should I stay in a Muay Thai gym where the fighters hit without much restraint or consideration?

Drills are meant to teach your muscles to perform a technique properly. I would pad the hell out of the recipient before I let another student hit him/her full-force. It's not about inflicting damage, ...
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Men hitting women too hard in martial arts

Quite frankly, it sounds like you're in an abusive training environment. The language you're using is uncomfortably similar to what I might hear from someone being beaten up by their spouse, the "they ...
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Not being able to spar correctly

There's two issues here: Ranging for Contact and Force This is a problem I see with folks who train for non-contact in their drills or doing "air sparring" - you train yourself to punch 2-3 inches ...
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How to get a punch through opponents guard?

Getting through the defenses of an opponent is one of the fundamental concepts of every combat strategy devised by man. There are at least as many ways to circumvent an opponent's defenses as there ...
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How to stop taekwondo warrior using Krav Maga with no need of timing?

Burst and fight close. That is the strength of Krav Maga and the weakness of Tae Kwon Do. Coming from someone who has trained in both. There's no such thing as a counter to any style that doesn't ...
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How to spar against a weaker opponent

Competition, in a club setting, should be all about learning: for yourself and them. Thus, Help them! Against a weaker opponent, your goal should be to make them better. So, allow them to practice ...
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Harassment by another student

I'm sure with your jujitsu you've seen enough of how a dojo should be to judge when someone's acting improperly, though from the little you've detailed it's not clear whether he's potentially just ...
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