Disclaimer: I am a male and wasn't in the same situation but i want you to give some advice.
I did 5 diffrent martial arts myself and found it quit hard not to confuse arts of the same type (e.g striking arts). Also i had problems working on Wing chun foottwork, which is quit diffrent from the Kickboxing footwork, which i learnt before. And for this i have severeal years of experience and did it one after another. So i believe your case is even worse. So i would say you choose a maximum of 3 diffrent arts. Like one weapon art like Eskrima, one striking and some wrestling or ground thing. For choosing at which school you stay, you should think about how you like your superviusors and trainingspartners at that school. Thats more important than the style.
You can invest the saved time and money in private lessons and generell fitness.That should help you more than other martial arts, while you train for only one year.
Do you have problems hitting your partners? If yes, this comes first. For this it is most important, that you find someone that you can give a fair punch whitout fear, that this person gets angry or laugh at you. Speak with your partners and ask how strong you should punch them in training and do as they say. But only train with people, who don't get mad easy or can't take a hit. If you can't choose and often come up with 'bad' partners just leave the school and train somewhere else.
After this you can slowly start sparring. But start with short rounds, just single round and/or half-contact first. You need to be confidend, to handle that sort of light sparring first. Then increase intensity to full sparring. It is important, that you do small steps, which you can win and regain confidence.