So my son (9 yrs old) and I have been doing JJ for about a year and a half- first 6 months at Dojo B -prices seemed quite high but 2 of the instructors split off to start a new Dojo A (slightly cheaper).
We have been at Dojo A from the start, the sensei talk about respect, integrity honour, etc, and we are taught some great moves, and my son really enjoys it. He gives it 110% every time we go, really loves it, and has graded here.
So the problem is this. I am away with work so my wife took my son to the class. When she went to pick him up, the teachers asked my wife AND son to step out the room for a minute, and complimented my son on how polite he was, etc.
For a bit more background on my son. How to teach intent
Then they went on to say his back breakfall was dangerous, as he lands on his elbows sometimes, and his hip throw is not right as he is not bring his feet together. Then they went on to explain how he could hurt someone.
All of this got my son quite upset (he cried himself to sleep that night). The teachers then continue to tell my wife and son that he needs to take a break until after Christmas, and unlearn what he learnt at Dojo B, then come back still on his current belt, but to start all the moves from white again!! (remember the same teachers from Dojo B are now in A)
I have also watched him, and his throw and breakfall are not different from a lot of other kids.
At the end of the night, the teacher informs the class what he and the other teacher have done - again talking about a journey/ integrity respect etc. (my son and wife had left by now – as she has to put our other child to bed)
My issues are :
Why did they wait till now to bring this up, the week after we paid out insurance / Why was this not picked up a lot earlier in the year?
Has he been in danger of hurting himself or others for a year?
Why let my son teach other students lower belts moves? I would say about a 1/4 of his lesson time he is doing this with minimal oversight.
Why do they force him to have a break (suspend?) when they could teach him to do it properly?
Why not wait till the following week to talk to me when I am there?
I understand my son is not the most agile of people, but I have been paying for the club to teach him Jujitsu.
I am very angry about this and currently looking for a new dojo; do you think I am overreacting?
Is it right I have lost all respect for this dojo, and question their integrity?
Thank you for taking the time to reply, I have decided to move on, and look for another school. Your advice was spot on and I should have picked up the signs sooner.